4th.

Patriotism has always been a thing I didn’t totally know how to engage with. I mean, I like our country. I do. I’m grateful for it. But it’s not a blind patriotism that I revel in. I’m more aware of our brokenness as a country even as I’m more aware of some of the pieces…

5 Years

n In the first few months everything seemed fairly magical. I remember sitting at the tall table right when you walk into to Gov Cup and talking about all sorts of things: trying to impress each other with our music taste, what kinds of food we liked and didn’t like, what our families were like,…

Friday

Foster care is such a tricky thing. I guess I can’t speak for all families, but I can speak for myself. It’s frickin’ hard. This picture is a good snapshot into the trickiness of it all. It looks beautiful. Cute. So “precious.” If I had a dollar for every time we have been told that…

any title i can think of seems like it will invoke pity or you’ll think that i think i’m some sort of hero and i don’t and i just want you know about a little of our life with two of the coolest girls in foster care that we could have ever dreamed of.

hello to our current little family of the last nearly four months… You girls, know what’s fun? Sitting around playing Uno in the glow of our newly strung up Christmas lights and blaming our farts on each other. There is something strangely healing and sacred about moments like these. Moments where we all come from…

letters you’ll never read

Dear Kids, Well, we’ve known each other for a few months now. In some ways we know each other better than anyone else does. In other ways it’s like we just met today and are more confused by each other than ever before. Slamming doors or ignoring what I’m saying doesn’t surprise me anymore. Most…

of children and meltdowns and always being tired.

Props to parents everywhere. One month in and I’m still confused about literally every single aspect of parenthood. I expect it will take the rest of my life to think I’ve figured any of this out. My eyes and my heart and my brain are tired tonight. Walking with newcomers and filing paperwork on their…

Parenthood: Semana Dos

Dear Foster Daughter #2, What a week right? You were dropped into our lives as surprise to both you and to us. You get a couple of parents that just started trying to figure out parenthood a few days before you arrived. Not only do you get a couple of brand-new parents, but you also…

family for today

Dear Foster Daughter, Welcome to your new home for a while. Today, you made me the most dad like person I’ve ever been. How weird is that? The singalongs, car dancing, Costco yelling, and brief tea party after I came home from work were the perfect introduction to being the dad of a four year…

New Adventures.

It’s easy to forget the way stories work. When you’re stuck in the part of the story where it seems like everything is going to hell, you forget that there are more pages ahead. Tonight as I ramble on with my words that feel flat when placed in the context of the richness of real…

2016

I am welcoming this new year with a deep, reassuring breath. I have been ready for this year to start. Lacey and I got to roll into this new year surrounded by some of our very favorite people in the world. Some of the coolest nieces and nephews in Southern California. Well, I guess, to…

love over heroism

The thing about spending your life walking beside people in the midst of their stories is that if you’re doing it to write a good story on a blog, you’re probably doing it for the wrong reason. To be a little transparent, when I began this Master’s program focusing on global development and justice, part…